Just the other day I was listening to Simon Sinek tell a story about him and a friend finishing a run. At the end of this run there were large tables set up with free bagels to those that were finishing the run. As he continued, he detailed the layout of these tables with the bagels and all of the people that were there grouped around them making it difficult to get to the bagels.
Simon turns to his friend and says “Free Bagel!
His friend responds with, “The line is too long.”
And they exchange continues back and forth between Simon and his friend about free bagels and the line being to long. Simon went on to say it was at that point he realized there were to ways to see the world.
“Some people see the thing that they want, and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want”
Now, there is more to the story than this, but I want to stop right here and unpack this. You see as a coach and personal trainer, we spend quite a bit of time helping people try to create a better version of themselves, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. We do this by trying to help people identify what they want to achieve by working with us.
This sounds pretty straight forward, the problem though is that when people start talking about the things they want to achieve, they usually end up talking about all the things that holds them back. And if you’re really listening, you will see that as the continue talking, the conversation becomes more about the things that get into their way rather than about the journey to reaching their goal. This is unfortunate, but true.
The good thing is, if you’re working with a professional that is in tune with this listening for change talk than they might be able to redirect the conversation. In the event that you’re not working with a professional it’s important to be able to reflect on your thinking and direction of your thinking. With this level of awareness, you can begin to spend more time planning and executing actions that move you forward and closer to your goal.
This is no easy task and will take some time to be able to identify, but once you’ve learned how to identify this, you’ll have a much easy time in making the transition into more positive self talk.
I spoke more about this topic on Evovled Athletix Radio episode 005. You can check it out here:
Also, if you want to checkout the rest of the Simon Sinek story, check it out here:
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Talk to soon.